Extinction of the Good Guy?

  Girls like bad boys.  I would love to say that this statement is horribly untrue, but unfortunately I find that it isn't... at least in the case of some of my crushes anyway.  Something about the idea of reforming a guy, turning him from the bad boy into the good guy, seems to pull at women's imagination and heart strings.  We imagine these guys becoming flower buying, door opening, hand holding gentlemen.
  Movies don't help our mindset.  Like I mention in my book, the fact that bad boy Shane West changes his tune when he falls for Mandy Moore in A Walk to Remember makes us think that this transformation is possible in any guy... and then we end up on a date with one of these said 'bad boys' wondering what on earth Shane West is doing that night, and if a date with him would have been a far better idea.
  In my opinion, there is no hope in going into a relationship wanting to change who a person is.  The only way lasting change will ever happen with anyone is if they decide to change for themselves.  If you try to force change, they'll just end up resenting you, and that's not the basis for a healthy relationship.
  So if we can't change the bad boys, where are all the good guys?  Do they even exist or are they just figments of imagination thought up by brilliant writers who are trying to appease our appetite for romance?  As a writer, at times it feels like the latter.  I'm getting to the chapter in my rewrite where Cass has a breakdown and Dean just holds her while she cries, and then he prays over her.  He sees that she needs protection, comfort, faith, hope.  And that's what he offers.  He doesn't try to take advantage of her, and he isn't rude to her, telling her that she needs to get over it and calm down.  Writing Dean's superb character (which I'll admit in the first draft was a little too perfect, but I'm working on it in the rewrite), makes me wonder if I'll ever find a guy outside of fiction like that.
  Thankfully, God has blessed me with some fairly great guys in my life who prove to me that chivalry is not dead.  I know guys who open doors for me, take my coat, pay for me when they take me out (no matter how much I argue with them on that front).  I know guys who set aside time to help me build, paint, wallpaper (and so much more) this amazing basement room.  I know guys who will cook for me, sometimes begrudgingly (*cough* Randy *cough*).
  Sure I also know guys who are self centered, rude, disgusting "douche bags", but if they choose to be like that around me, there is a price to pay.  Literally, I have a douche bag jar just like on New Girl.  So flex away, but every reference to the beach being 'that way' costs at least a dollar.  (Just so any of you brave guys out there reading this are aware.)
  Also, be aware, if you are one of those seemingly, amazingly rare good guys that I am so very lucky to know, thanks for giving me hope.  Knowing that you still exist makes me more resolute to wait for one of you rather than settle for one of those bad boys.  Don't get discourage Good Guys.  You won't finish last, even if it feels like you will.  Some special girl that has had her heart broken dozens of times by those other guys will see you as worth your weight in gold.  But don't let that go to your head.  I have that jar, don't forget. :)
  Drop me a line about the bad boys you've fallen for, the good guy in your life (or thoughts if you are a good guy!  I would love to hear what you have to say!), or just your lovely thoughts my friends.  I love getting comments.  It reminds me that I'm not in this blogging world alone. :P
<3 Kayla